I believe there are a whole segment of the population who look forward to the holidays with excitement and wonder. They love traveling to see family and when they are together, everyone acts in a loving manner and nobody is triggered (gentle sigh). The holidays are different for many people. The members of this community are known for saying, "I can't wait for the holidays to be over." One of my friends (or maybe me) threw a Thank God They're Over party on January 1st. But of course celebrating anything around that time of year is exhausting so it didn't catch on.
In adulthood, you are expected to continue a family tradition or create your own. There are expectations of others, families, employers, clients, Aunt Gertrude, etc. When does anyone take a moment and ask you what you want? Well, I'm asking you now, what is your dream holiday experience? What would it look like? How would it feel? Who would be involved? Where would it take place? Paint a picture in your mind. Be realistic. If it includes your alcoholic Uncle Harry being sober, then you are wishing for a fairy tale. That could come true but it is not within your power to make that happen. What does your inner child want the holidays to look like? How can you move closer to your ideal this year? You may have to step on a few toes, like Aunt Gertrude’s, and plan on making small changes this year with the goal of moving toward your dream holiday season. Of course, it means you need to learn how to say no sometimes, gently but firmly.
And one more thing, please take care of yourself. Get more massages this month. Make sure you’re eating healthy whole foods. Watch out for your alcohol and sugar intake. Increase your stress reducing disciplines. Watch your spending, be careful you are are not people pleasing with your gift buying. Come the first of the year you will be happy you did.
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